The Six Wounds of The Dark Femme
1. The Shadow Wound
The shadow wound forms when a woman learns to exile the parts of herself that others rejected : her anger, her desire, her intensity, her truth. This wound teaches her that hiding never protected her; it only dimmed her. When she turns toward her shadow with compassion instead of fear, she discovers that the qualities she buried are actually her deepest sources of strength, intuition, and authenticity.
2. The Body Wound
The body wound emerges when safety was inconsistent - when the body became a battleground rather than a home. It teaches women that healing begins with returning to the body instead of escaping it. Through softness, slowness, and sensation, she learns to trust her own signals again, reclaiming the right to feel, to rest, and to take up space without apology.
3. The Sister Wound
The sister wound grows from betrayal, comparison, exclusion, and competition between women. It teaches that distrust was once a survival strategy, not a personality flaw. As she heals, she realizes that sisterhood is a source of power, not danger - that other women are not mirrors of her inadequacy but reflections of her hidden brilliance and potential.
4. The Mother Wound
The mother wound forms when a woman learns to self-abandon to earn love, peace, or acceptance. It teaches her that loyalty to others at the expense of herself is not devotion - it’s depletion. This wound guides her back to nourishing herself, setting boundaries, and mothering the inner child who never learned her own worth.
5. The Father Wound
The father wound develops through absence, inconsistency, emotional distance, or conditional approval. It teaches women how often they’ve built their lives around seeking validation or proving themselves. Healing invites her to redefine what strength, protection, and leadership mean and to cultivate those qualities from within rather than chasing them externally.
6. The Witch Wound
The witch wound is the inherited fear of being too powerful, too intuitive, too expressive, or too different. It teaches women how they’ve learned to shrink to stay safe. When she heals it, she steps into visibility without fear, trusting her voice, her gifts, and her inner knowing. She realizes she was never meant to be small and that fighting suppression is part of of growing her power.